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What’s Brewing – April 2018

OPEN WIDE AND SAY “AH-HA”!

St. Arbucks is alive with laughter, giggles, and humor these days as we gather together to enjoy laughing WITH each other and helping people to not take themselves tooooo seriously!  What a gift we have in Laughter! We remind each other of the three emphases:

  1. “And God said, “Lighten Up!” He also said, “I am the Light” of the world, which makes us “lights” also!
  2. Laugh AT yourself first!
  3. Give other people permission to laugh!

As one of our joy-filled friends likes to say, “If you love Jesus, why don’t you tell your face about it!” Sounds a little law-oriented, but it does help us to remember Psalm 126:3 –“The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with JOY!”

The St. Arbuck’s gang has developed a “test” to help each other to focus on the gift of laughter. We are happy to share it with you ….and you have our permission to add to it and take from it, as long as it helps people younger and older to laugh more and sulk less! Here are some of the benefits of laughter, in addition to the powerful fact that laughter reminds us that the Lord continues to love and forgive us, regardless of how we look, act, or feel.  Sure, “The Lord loves a cheerful giver”, but He also loves us grouches!

   A Quiz, (with answers) on the Benefits of Laughter

  1. Why does it make you feel good to laugh? Medical folks claim that laughter releases certain brain chemicals, like endorphins and dopamine, to create these positive feelings and actions.
  2. Socially, we use laughter to show others we like them. We are 30 times more likely to laugh when we are with others than when we are alone.
  3. How many calories can 10-15 minutes of laughter burn? Studies show that we burn 40 calories in the process. So, if we laugh 15 minutes a day, we will lose 4 lbs. a year! And that’s without even going to the gym!
  4. How does laughter help our heart? It helps our blood to flow more freely and relaxes our arteries. Sounds healthy to me!
  5. How does laughing help to ease pain? It releases endorphins which is especially helpful to older adults with chronic pain. No, we cannot “laugh our pain away” totally, but it sure will help our well being in the process.
  6. Laughter is helpful to mental health issues. It lowers stress and helps fight depression. I recall one friend’s quote, “I do not have stress – but I am a carrier!”
  7. Laughter is contagious. We have a built-in “laugh detector”. Once we begin to laugh, our “laughter generator” is tripped and we develop the giggles. And then, watch out world– here we come!
  8. Babys’ first giggles that bonds them with their families are generated through smiles, laughter, and tickling, as they learn by watching and responding.
  9. Our early ancestors laughed before they could talk. It is how they communicated and found out who was a friend or foe. Laughter was used as a “sigh of relief” after dangerous situations. Recall the importance of laughter in meetings and other events, especially when tough and heavy-duty topics are being debated.
  10. Free one: Who is the medical doctor who uses humor as medicine? Patch Adams is his name, and he continues to practice his skills at enabling people to laugh their way to being healthy and happy people, in the Lord!

“Happy Laughing” to each of us as we continue to celebrate God’s gift of laughter with and to those who he has placed around us.  When we think of keeping healthy in the Lord, remember the doctor who quips, “Open wide …and say “AH-HA!”

Dr. Rich Bimler

Ambassador of Health, Hope, and Aging (AH-HA!)

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What’s Brewing – March 2018

BREAKING NEWS ………A recent study from Germany confirms that drinking beer and coffee regularly increases one’s life span! When this astounding news was shared at our Saturday morning confab, it naturally got the attention of the baristas and regular customers at St. Arbucks!  I also know that it will make my brother very happy as well!

Now that we have your attention, we want to share some conversations, ideas, quotes, and general observations we are experiencing at our local St. Arbucks. We really can learn more by listening to people than by simply talking at one another!

One of our coffee-loving friends shared some scripture with us which he claims provides one way for older adults to deal with younger people. We are sure that he does not understand the text appropriately, but it was cause for some further discussion, as well as laughter.  He read 2 Kings 2:23-25: “From there Eisha went up to Bethel. As he was walking along the road, some youths came out of the town and jeered at him. “Go on up, you bald head”, they said….He turned around, looked at them and called down a curse on them in the name of the Lord. Then two bears came out of the woods and mauled forty-two of the youths…..”

Now we are certainly not promoting this kind of “relationship building” between the younger and the older, and we have encouraged our friend to do a study of this text to see it in the appropriate context. It did, however, raise the issue of how the younger and the older are relating with each other, at home, in church, and in the community. Perhaps we older ones do wish at times that the younger ones would “disappear”, or “keep in their place”, or “not be so noisy”. Perhaps we at times feel discouraged when we older folks are perceived by the younger as being a “problem”, “out-of-step”, or just old “fuddy-duddies”.  I still bristle when someone demeans an older adult through a joke that pokes fun at an older person or when younger people assume that we older ones are all set it our ways and are just “living in the past”.

So, what are we going to do about it? I say, first, let’s do continue to drink our beer and coffee (in moderation, of course!) and be pro-active in spending time with and listening to those young people around us. Why not invite one or two of them to join you at a St. Arbucks (yes, forget about the beer this time!)? Why not seek out a teenager after worship next week and actually get to know him or her a little better by asking how they are doing? Why not spend some time with a grandchild or young neighbor to get their take on their world? Perhaps if we were more intentional about connecting with young people, we wouldn’t have to think about finding some bears in the woods to solve the issue, and we might even find out that these young people will enrich and enhance our lives so much that we will not even have to think about drinking beer or even coffee the rest of our lives!

I am so blessed when I listen to my grandkids. Sarah, college student, sent me a text recently and shared her perception that our society loves “aged cheese” and “aged wine” but has difficulty accepting “aged” people?  She asked why is it that many aging and vintage items in our world are seen as positive and valuable while aging people are often seen as “problems”! Thanks, Sarah, for that insight! Let’s get together and talk more about it!

So, let’s continue to drink our beer and sip our coffee, but even more importantly, let’s continue to keep in “ministry range” of younger people, as we continue to celebrate God’s gift of aging!

And let’s also make sure we understand the context and meaning of 2 Kings 2:23-25!

Rich Bimler

What’s Brewing – February 2018

What’s new in Rich and Charlie’s St. Arbuck’s world is actually very old if Acts 2:17 and Joel 2:28 are to be trusted: old men and women dream dreams and young men and women see visions.  If it was true in days of yore, is it true today?  Have you had any life changing dreams lately?  Or visions? Or neither?  Or both?

It took me a long time to get a handle on that Joel/Acts dream/vision language.  In my experience dreams are based on past experiences.  It’s hard to dream about what you’ve never done.  Visions refer to brand new stuff, previously unknown to others, maybe even to yourself.  Think about it.  Isn’t that how change happens?  The old work at keeping one of yesterday’s dream alive while the young “see” what has never been before and strike out for the unknown.  Wow.  That’s scary – as history demonstrates again and again!  But where there is no vision there is no hope.

I got onto this dream-vision kick after reading a book recently published by Valparaiso University Press.  Written by Richard Baepler it is entitled, “Keeper of the Dream: O.P. Kretzmann”.  It’s a good book full of Lutheran history in general and that of the LCMS in particular.  Baepler could have just as easily entitled the book, “Keeper of the Vision: O.P. Kretzmann”.   Doesn’t it work both ways?  As I read the book it seems to me that it did with O.P. in his Valpo days.  He always seemed to be one visionary jump ahead of the change in his world that was developing in matters institutional, social, theological and political.  All his life he worked at bridging the chasm between those who were ready for the authentic change and the new day that was developing all around and those who were dug in, determined to stick with the old ways and resist change no matter what.

To show what kind of man he was instead of wringing his hands over what WWII was doing to Valpo’s student body he worked hard at building a new kind of “Lutheran” college that was mostly female.  Or when taller men were classified 4F in those days because of their height Valpo floored the first college basketball team in the USA all of whom were over six feet.  He encouraged a Valpo base for the Lutheran Human Relations Association when most of our congregations were lily white.  Valpo initiated a program for training congregation based youth workers.  It was in the forefront of liturgical renewal in Lutheranism.  There’s lots more.  Is this enough of a teaser to make you want to read this book about that remarkable man and what he did in his life?

As for me and many of my peers the story of O.P. and Valpo is the story of our life.  We were coming of age on parallel tracks of social, political and institutional change in our LCMS world much of which are still in process.   As Yogi would put it, reading this book was de ja vous all over again for me.  As far as dreamers are concerned it is a report of their world that was.  For fellow visionaries it is a Triptik for what lies ahead. 

How better to wrap this R and C St. Arbuck’s report than in words of Roy Rogers one of yesterday’s heroes: “Happy trails to you.”  Or better yet, dreamer or visionary, “Vaya con Dios.”

Charlie

What’s Brewing – January 2018

                                                WHAT TO BRING TO 2018!

It’s been VERY cold for Chicago folks these past few days, so what better way to warm up than to visit with some friendly folks at St. Arbucks in the early morning! The topic that developed naturally as we move into the brand New Year of 2018 was “What can I bring to 2018?” Listen in as we discuss, nudge, engage, laugh, and perhaps even change our minds as we share ideas, inspirations, and hopes. Here is a listing of 18 quotes and concepts discussed. Listen closely and perhaps you can even hear the background music playing, “Have a jolly, jolly, java!” Someone just mentioned that it is SO cold here that they just saw a family eating ice cream just to keep warm!………And now on to the thoughts to consider for  2018:

1.“How can we continue to grow older – with no apologies? We need to move from denying aging to accepting it, and even embracing and celebrating it!”

2.“Wouldn’t it be great if each of us would work on saying “Yes” much more than “No” during 2018?

3.”Laugh more at yourself than at others. It would sure make this a happier world!”

4.“Listen and watch how younger people respond to, converse with, and relate to older people around them. Help all ages to do the same so that we can learn from each other.”

5.”Discuss and listen more to people rather than argue and demand, especially in terms of the current political climate in our country, and our Church”.

6.”Do everything in moderation – including moderation!” (Some of us are still trying to figure out this one!)

7.”Consider that every thought is a seed. If we plant crab apples, we can’t count on harvesting golden delicious.”

8.”Keep the focus on the Promise of the Lord, rather than on the Problems of the world. That’s the only way to help solve the problems of the world!”

9.”We get in trouble when we choose the wrong enemy.”

10.”Faith in Christ always defeats Fear in failure!”

11.“Be perfectly imperfect!”

12.“A common sense of civility and respect is lacking greatly in the current climate and conversations of our national leaders.”

13.“Remember the two buttons that read – “Maybe you are right; maybe I am wrong.”? Perhaps we should print and wear them again!

14.“Leave a little glitter wherever you go.”

15.”We don’t see things the way they are – we see things the way we are.”

16.“In God’s Kingdom, everyone matters!”

17.“In our daily lives together, never forget that we are all just walking each other home.”

And to close off our hopes and dreams for the New Year of 2018, and since St. Arbucks is urging us to leave soon anyway, what better way to sum it up with the Word of the Lord from Micah 6:8 –

18.”What does the Lord require of us but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8) 

Blessed 2018, from all of us here at St. Arbucks!

Rich Bimler

 

 

What’s Brewing – December 2017

                          Remembering the Saints in the Lord!

St. Arbucks is not the only place where we meet other saints in the Lord! St. Arbucks is a place, however, where we can remember, review, and recall the many saints in the Lord who have significantly touched our lives through our many years. Let me reflect on one of my special saints who crossed my path, and many others, in very special ways. His name is Pastor Vern Gundermann, who lived and died in the Lord!

Vern taught so many of us how to “live well” and also how to ‘die well”. During his life, he touched thousands of people with his pastoral style, his loving concern, his gracious ways of remembering peoples’ birthdays and anniversaries, and his willingness to always take “the extra mile” to support and encourage others. He was blessed with a strong faith-filled family who supported him all the way, which meant many hours and days where Vern was out and about , ministering to all those with whom he had contact.

After being diagnosed with ALS in the Fall of 2015, Vern continued his ministry to everyone who came near him, keeping in close contact with family and friends, in St. Louis, Minneapolis, and literally throughout the world. He began writing a daily “blog” which was sent out to his network of people. Each day, Vern would begin with the phrase, “Life is good. Life is changing. Life is good!” And that defined hat Vern’s life was all about. Even in the midst of joys and sorrows, struggles and victories, and now even ALS, Vern saw that life was good, in the Lord!

Flash back to the Fall of 1973. The Bimlers were just moving into a new ministry location in Minneapolis and settling into a new home in New Hope, Minnesota. Not knowing much about the area, including local churches to consider joining, Hazel and I went about getting our worldly goods moved into our compact new abode. Since I am not the most talented guy in terms of moving, fixing, or really doing much of anything helpful around the house, we were having difficulties getting furniture arranged and especially troubling was trying to get our washer and dryer hooked up properly. And then the Lord provided for us by somehow having the new local pastor, named Vern Gundermann , stop by for a “welcome” visit. Not only were we impressed with this energetic pastor, but I was especially attracted to the fact that he offered to install our washer and dryer….and he did it!  Needless to say, we joined his parish, thinking of course that if other utilities need repair in the month ahead, we would know who to call!

Vern and Betty’s ministries to and with us were amazing and we continued the connection when both families found each other together again St. Louis a few years later.

During his challenges with ALS, Vern’s daily notes to his friends were spiritual, emotional, and educational, all in one. He would give us a daily update on 1} life – his day’s activities; 2} medical – his physical condition and the latest medical procedures; and 3} his devotional life, through biblical reflections, the 10 Commandments,  and the Lord’s Prayer.

Yes, life is good. Life is changing. Life is good! Vern wrote this e-newsletter daily, later with the help of family members, and it was always an upbeat, positive statement about the love and forgiveness that the Lord was providing him, in the midst of the dreadful disease which captured his body.

Lord, thanks for Vern and his ministry to so many of us. As we remember him, and other saints who you have brought into our lives, we give you thanks. May we also live out a life of knowing and sharing your love and forgiveness, and may we too be led to proclaim, “Life is good; Life is changing; Life is good”, in the Lord!

“For all the saints who from their labors rest……Alleluia, Alleluia!”

And that’s What’s Brewing at St. Arbucks this month!

Rich Bimler

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What’s Brewing – November 2017

PARISH SERVANTS – 2017

When it comes right down to it Rich and I are just a couple of garden variety church workers, he an educator and me a pastor. As far as I am concerned those two ecclesiastical serving niches are vocationally about as good as it gets in the church.  But neither is all that safe.  As Martin Luther discovered life on the church’s front lines caught in the cross fire of opposing academic, political and institutional elements of society can be downright dangerous.  

In the 1500s the Reformation’s “founder” found himself trapped between 1) schemes of Rome’s power brokers, 2) conflicting theologians past and present, 3) political ferment within the Holy Roman Empire (Worms was a political event as much as anything else) and 4) Emperor Charles V’s needed European unity as he faced the Muslim forces the gates of Vienna.   No wonder the German monk’s best known hymn was about the importance of having a mighty fortress.  .

So what does all that have to do with a couple of over-age-in-grade 21st century Lutheran parish servants sitting around drinking coffee at Starbucks in the early AM?   Try this.

  • Conflict is still alive between the 21st century equivalents of the 15th century’s four forces. Check them out.
  • Rich and I (and thankfully many others) enlisted as soldiers of the cross for life. We don’t quit.  We are still on duty as parish defenders and servants. 
  • In the historic LCMS ecclesiastical pecking order we see servants-of-the-servants-of God. Got that?
  • As Ephesians 4:11 “pastors and teachers” we believe that as servants we out-rank today’s hierarchical equivalents of those 15th century anti-forces. I wonder, do they know that?  

So what are Rich and I up to of a Saturday morning? 

  • We talk about doing all we can to answer the needs of God’s faithful people whether be individual, families or other Christian church folk.
  • We are determined to do all we can to help the LCMS’s national organization return to itds of s of congregationhs. congregatiins s historic position of serving congregations rather than that congregations are seen as subservient to the synod. 

As we chat we sometime talk about Luther’s observation (with some contemporary add-ons) that, “He who wants a perfect church (synod, parish, family, friend) plainly wants no church at all.” 

While we feel that neither the LCMS nor our current parishes   are perfect, this is for sure: they are ours.  Flawed as they (we) are we’d move on from either in a minute – if we could find another any better.  Until that day we will do all we can to support and be a blessing to the church to which we belong whether national or local.  Or, is that which belongs to us?  Can we talk?

Charlie

What’s Brewing – October 2017

A great resource to bring with you to your next St. Arbucks’ coffee clutch is “Vesper Time”, by Frank Cunningham (Orbis, 2017, $18.00)). It is an “easy read” of 138 pages which focuses on aging in creative, meaningful, and significant ways. Thanks to our friend Pastor Tim Hartner, Weston, Florida, for recommending this new book of powerful insights! The sub title is “The Spiritual Practice of Growing Older”, which summarizes well the theme and intent of this masterpiece.

“Why the title of ‘Vesper Time’“?  was asked early on in our discussion. The author clearly explains that Vespers – or evening prayer – is the 6th of Christianity’s prayerful celebrations of the day’s progression. Vespers is observed at the time of the lighting of the lamps, just before darkness descends. Sounds good to me! By the way, Vespers is widely considered to be the most beautiful of all of the Liturgy of the Hours!  Our study group also pounced on a preponderance of quotable phrases that jump out throughout the pages. One of my favorites focuses on the “grace of aging”: “Aging is about living into our memories, about seeking their meaning, about accepting and being kind to them”. Well said, indeed!

The entire book is an affirmation and acknowledgement that aging is a blessing, a gift from God, and not a burden or a negative narrative of doom and despair. Perhaps you and your group can engage each chapter slowly and intentionally, always asking the good old Lutheran question, “What does this mean?” Make sure your coffee cups are full because you are in for a long and luxurious adventure!

The 5 chapters summarize the author’s personal journey through the aging process as he gracefully shares his experiences and reflections. His 5 topics of experiences are Memory, Intimacy, Diminishment, Gratitude, and Acceptance.   You and your group may want to study these concepts and add, subtract, or change them depending on your own experiences and journey. The most helpful part of this whole process is for each of us to get a better handle on what 5 or more experiences are molding and driving our aging gracefully and joyfully!

I encourage you to dig into this new resource with gusto. Have fun with it. Be challenged by it. Share it with other coffee or even non-coffee drinkers! My hope and prayer is that it becomes another welcoming resource for you to continue to age gracefully in the Lord!

Rich Bimler

What’s Brewing – September 2017

Caution: The “Hurry Sickness” is alive and well in our church and society! Just watch at how people, young and old, zoom in and out of St. Arbucks as they get their morning (or afternoon) brew. As we watch with wonder from our coffee perch, we can sense the adrenalin oozing through the drive-thru line, the order pick up line, and even while people are ordering their special treat the usual way. The “Hurry Sickness” is also evident before and after worship as folks (including myself!) watch their watches to make sure we are “out” in an hour, to hurry a spouse from visiting after the service so we can “go”. And on and on.

Yes, I confess, that I am a recovering “Hurry Sickness” specimen! That is why I am so pleased that in Dick Koehneke’s article this month, he shares some excellent ideas and reflections on “White Space: The Strategic Pause”. If you haven’t already read his column, please do so now. My article can wait!

Larry Dossey, in his book, “Space, Time, and Medicine”, says, “Just as Pavlov’s dogs learned to salivate inappropriately, we have learned to hurry inappropriately. Our sense of urgency is set off, not by a real need to act quickly, but through learned cues.” Our “bells” have become the internet, texts, iPhones, and the hundreds of self-inflicted expectations that we build into our daily routine, including our morning St. Arbucks! The subliminal message is : “Time is running out, life is running down; please hurry!”

It is easy to catch this illness. There is so much to do, so many people to see, so many things to “get ready” for, and on and on. Luther was correct when he said, “The hurrier I go, the behinder I get.” (Okay, so he didn’t say this, but he should have!). Lily Tomlin said it this way, “The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat!” The “Hurry Sickness” is a metaphor for all those illnesses brought on by stress, expectations, worrying about failing, and constant pressure. Do we get stressed out because we are stuck in traffic? Do we drive carelessly because we are running late? Do we count the number of items the person has in front of us in a line that says “Express line – 8 items only?” Do we finish each other’s’ sentences? Do we skip a meal to “save time”? Do we “go bananas” when someone is late? Me too!

I feel like the Charlie Brown cartoon that shows Lucy telling Charlie what is wrong with him. When Charlie asks Lucy “What can I do about it?”, she simply says, “I don’t have the answers, my job is only to point out the problem!”

Here again is where Dick Koehneke’s article in this month’s Rich and Charlie Resources is so valuable to us. I also know that Psalm 46:10 continues to be a gem for me: “Be still and know that I am God”. I don’t always “take the time” to hear this, but I do know in faith that the Lord is there attempting to calm the storms in my life and provide the faith and trust so that I can “let go” of my hurried pace. He also sends caring and forgiving people into my life to help me to “remember the Sabbath”, to lighten me up, and to calm me down.

Perhaps you do not have the “Hurry Sickness”. Hooray! You then can help to bring comfort and reassurance to us who are infected. And as for us “Hurry Sickness” folks, and even us contagious ones, let us help one another to connect with the younger and the older in our lives who can settle us down and re-assure us that the Lord who calms the seas can also bring calm to our lives.

And this is what’s brewing at St. Arbucks this morning! Pardon me, now, I have to get in line for my favorite brew!

Rich Bimler

What’s Brewing – August 2017

The focus of conversation at St. Arbucks this month has been how we older adults can become more engaged and connected with the younger generations. Here is an exciting list of possibilities for you and your friends. Enjoy…as we continue to celebrate God’s gift of aging!

                 BACK TO SCHOOL – FROM THE “GOOD OLD DAYS” TO THE “GOOD NEW DAYS”!

As children and youth head back to school, burdened down with their bulging back-packs, we older adults can also be involved in the “back-to-school” process. Here are some handy hints of activities available for the over-65 crowd. Feel free to add your own suggestions as well:

  1. Offer your assistance at an elementary or high school as a volunteer in a class, in the cafeteria, in the library, or on the playground,
  2. Give a “Welcome Back to School” gift to a favorite youngster in your life, like a Starbucks card, food card, prayer booklet, necklace, or …..
  3. Write an e-mail or note to a young person or two, saying that you will be praying for them.
  4. Contact the parents of a student and offer your support and help to them during the school year.
  5. “Sneak” a favorite student or three some spending money, just between you and them!
  6. For college students, bake some yummy cookies and get them in the mail as soon as possible! They will enjoy your thoughtfulness and it will also prevent you from eating them yourself!
  7. Let them know that you will be praying for them throughout the year…and then do so!
  8. Plan to visit the school, just to say HI, to offer to volunteer, and to meet their teachers.
  9. Enroll in a class yourself so you continue to grow and learn along with your younger friends! Lots of on-line courses, community college courses are available.
  10. Send a selfie to a young friend with an “I’m praying for you” tag line.
  11. Text a special young person once in a while, just to say HI, but do not do it tooooo often!
  12. Ask the parents how their kids are doing and inquire how you can continue to help and support them.
  13. Be a greeter at the local elementary school. If Wall Mart can do it, why can’t you do it also!
  14. Look for mentoring and tutoring opportunities in your local school. As you share your gifts with the students you will receive so much more in return from them!
  15. Encourage other older adults around you to join you in doing these and other activities with you. The more the merrier!
  16. Invite youngsters over to your home when they are out of school – just to chat, laugh, tell jokes, and listen to their stories and challenges.
  17. Take youngsters out for a special breakfast or lunch on weekends or when they have a day free from school. Ask them to tell you about their high points and low points of the week, and then listen wisely!
  18. For grandchildren especially, make plans with them to go on a Grandparent/Young Person Vacation Trip to a destination of their choice during a break or long weekend. Obviously, it is best if you set the financial limits and guidelines of such an adventure! One-on one excursions can be great experiences for all!
  19. Plan to attend as many sports events, plays, concerts, and special events where your young friends are participating. Be the best cheerleader, encourager, fanatic fan you can be, but it is probably not wise to point and shout out “There’s my grandchild – isn’t she the best!” (Even though she is!)
  20. Think of at least one specific activity you can do each week to connect with one or more school age kids, whether they are grandkids, neighbors’ kids, or kids from your congregation.

Free One: Remember to thank the Lord for the gift of children of any age as you continue to encourage and empower vibrant, grace-filled living across all generations, in the name of the Lord!

 

 Rich Bimler

What’s Brewing – July 2017

THE DEMOGRAPHIC DILEMMA!

St. Arbucks is a great location to observe and discuss the stages and ages of life. As Charlie and I settle in at our usual table location, we hear and see a delightful mix of young people, older folks, a family or two, and many single folks rushing in to order their specialty drink. Of course, being that we meet on Saturday mornings at 6 AM does skew the demographics , but the point is that a place like St. Arbucks continues to service and attract people of every age.

This raises the question of how can each of us better understand and prepare ourselves to live through the various stages of life in healthy and helpful ways. One approach is to see life in 30-year increments. The following approach is compliments of the January-February issue of Presbyterian Today magazine:

1st Stage – 0-30

2nd Stage – 30-60

3rd Stage -60-90

The First 30 years – a time for acquisition. We learn as infants to do many things. We acquire an education, a job, and perhaps a family. There are great varieties of abilities that we learn and develop.  We learn, we look, we leap, and we listen to the world around us.

The Second 30 years – We do what we have learned and hopefully do it well. It is relatively a stable time, compared with other stages, as we work and participate in family life. We sometimes get so used to our physical and mental abilities that we sometimes think that they will last forever.

The Third 30 years – We begin to shed things that we have acquired in the later years. Kids move on, we re-position from our jobs, we “right-size” our home and lifestyles. Physical and mental abilities change.  People in this phase vary in their abilities to care for themselves and others, similar to the first 30 years.

Our St. Arbucks friends want to know how you respond to this approach to aging. Does it make sense? Is it accurate? What else needs to be added or emphasized?

 “Aging is a spiritual journey, and as we become older each of us becomes more unique.”, states Quentin Holmes. Do you agree? Richard Morgan, author of “Pilgrimage into the Last Third of Life” says that old age can be a time when folks, “whine, recline, and decline”, or it can be a “time to shine” with the Holy Spirit. Well said, we think! Our outlook is determined to a large degree by how we respond to the challenges of aging.

Why not take some time this month to discuss your views and attitudes towards aging. Talk with your peers as well as with those younger and older than yourself.

Hey, we have an idea: Why not frequent a St. Arbucks this month and look for a friendly table to discuss these Three Stages of Life with others?  Perhaps someone will even offer to buy you a “coffee of the day”!

Happy aging, regardless of your Stage of Life, because the Lord continues to bless us through all of our years!

Rich Bimler