By Dick Koehneke
Jesus saw the two disciples of John following him. He asked them, “What are you seeking?” They said, “Rabbi, where are you staying?” Jesus replied, “Come, and you will see.” (John 1:38-39)
Jesus listened carefully to the two disciples of John. He did not give them what they asked for. They wanted his address. He gave them what they needed: a relationship with him.
When your prayers are not answered in the way you expect, remember how the Lord works. He knows you better than you know yourself. He knows that what you want may not be what you need. He is listening carefully, with care for you.
I appreciate this devotional meditation titled, “I Asked and He Gave.” “I asked God for strength, and he gave me challenges to make me strong. I asked God for wisdom, and he gave me problems to solve. I asked God for prosperity, and he gave me the ability to think and work. I asked God for courage, and he gave me obstacles to overcome. I asked God for love, and he gave me troubled people for me to help.” That’s how God works.
“Where are you staying?” they asked. “Come and see,” Jesus said. He was listening carefully and with care.
Are we listening to one another? The temptation in these hurried and hectic times is to do what I call, “Snap, Jump, and Rush.” Make snap decisions about another person. Jump to conclusions. Rush to judgment. Snap, Jump, Rush. Is that how you want to be treated? Let’s not treat each other that way.
We’ve all had the experience of being misunderstood. It doesn’t feel very good, does it? Sometimes we want to say, “I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” There are times when the best thing to do is to say, “Let’s rewind the tape and start over!” Or as the engineer in the recording studio says, “Take two! Let’s do it until we get it right!” That’s the way to understand each other.
I’d like to say something to young people. If you’re not so young, maybe you could share these thoughts in your own words with the young people in your life. Here goes:
Dear young people, when you listen to your parents, listen for the meaning behind their words. When you hear them making rules and setting boundaries, you may think they are saying, “We don’t want you to have any fun. We don’t trust you.” That’s not what they mean. Here is the meaning behind their words: “We love you more than you can imagine. We want only the very best for you. We don’t want harm to come to you. We want you to grow up into the fullness of God’s plan for you.” That’s what your parents are really saying.
God has given us the Good News of Jesus Christ to share with people whose lives we touch. In order for us to communicate the Gospel in a way that connects with others, we need to learn to know them, and that takes some careful, caring listening — listening that hears the meaning behind the words, listening that uncovers real needs, listening that leads to the practical application of real Christ-like love to meet those real needs. In the Spirit of Christ and by the Spirit’s power, we want to listen carefully and with care — to those near and dear to us, to people we barely know, and everyone in between.
They asked Jesus, “Where are you staying?” He answered, “Come and see.” The next time someone asks you, “Where is your church?” or even “Where do you live?” you could give them the location, or you could say “Come and see!”